You get to know a stranger and first you see many differences. But in exchange with the other one you get to know him better. Out of love for the other person, you find ways to tolerate these peculiarities in him without pretending to. One gets to know these peculiarities and their meaningfulness in the world of the beloved subject better and can thereby prescribe them as meaningful. Trust and care are explored together and one believes that one can also test the other in order to get to know him/her better. The bridges built are the recognition of the meaningfulness of the other’s differences. The love for this relativistic meaning enables the building of these bridges.
Note: I have made the following music selection for myself. It may therefore appear to you (the reader) to be unsuitable for this structure, as it is based on personal criteria.
The individual
The stranger is outwardly different from us. We may see him as powerful or powerless without having really got to know him and his values. If you don’t know a person yet (just got to know him or her), you are still looking for common ideals and anchor points where you can possibly enter into a lasting exchange and friendship with each other on a deeper level. If, in the exchange with the other person, one notices that the particularities that the other person has in his world make sense (that one would be the same even in a similar situation), one can recognize a coherence in the existence of the other person, which enables one to appreciate the other person in his difference.
Cem Karaca – Mein Deutscher Freund
Loren Auerbach & Bert Jansch – So Lonely
Linda Perhacs – If You Were My Man
The template
We love our ideal world that we carry within us. It is a dream world or an idea of how life should actually be, so that we can feel really comfortable. We are now looking in reality to build bridges that can open a way to this dream world, so that we have the opportunity to actually recognize our dream world in the material world. The recognition that there are other people who are also searching for this ideal world and the agreement / exchange with the other person about the similarity of the ideal world builds bridges to the other person, which are based on the fact that the other person is a seeker with whom one can recognize, reflect and recognize the ideal world in oneself. Platonic love refers to this world of ideas.
Sarah Lesch – Testament
Die Bandbreite – Alles bleibt gleich (feat. Morgaine & Kilez More)
Tim Buckley – The Earth Is Broken
2pac – Changes
Fred Neil – Dolphins
The balance
One appeals to his loved ones, that they learn to understand him on a deeper fundamental level, that they acknowledge and accept diversity and, based on this, take this individuality into account in their love. For example, a child appeals in this way to his or her parents to be accepted by them as it really is and not to have to live up to any template.
Note: Music is free and the assignments made here are for entertainment purposes only and can never restrict a song to only these aspects.
